I went looking for a quote about step dads. I was shocked at how many put down the birth dad as not participating in the lives of their children. My girls are lucky enough to have an active dad and an active stepdad. Is it really that many men who walk away from their child, or is it women just as equally? The memes I found really irritated me. Because I have two titles dad and stepdad and I rock them both shirt. I absolutely see this in my life! My husband and I have decided to just treat others how we want to be treated and not reciprocate the hypocrisy. It’s gotta end somewhere!
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Definitely moms too… I’ve noticed this, many biological moms will downgrade biological fathers. When they move on, the stepfather is praised like no other, and even when the biological dad is still actively involved. When it’s the other way around, and the biological father has custody for whatever reason, and moves on and the children have a stepmom, everyone despises the stepmom because she’s “overstepping” by loving a child and taking care of a child and looking in the best interest of a child that’s not biologically hers. It is so much harder to be a stepmom than it is to be a stepdad. And I have two titles dad and stepdad and I rock them both shirt. But there are definitely just as many dead beat mothers as there are fathers.
There are so many factors, but I would say in the end more people I know have one person step away after a split than not. The list of reasons is long. Also there is the fact that until recently, custody has traditionally been awarded solely to the mother, so many, many stepdads will have spent more time with the kids than their biodad. It’s only in recent years that dads are getting joint custody unless there’s a reason for them not to. I honestly think it started out as the majority of dead beat parents being dads – but these days I’m thinking two things: 1) more and more it’s the mother deserting her children, 2) women tend to use more emotion in coparenting than men, so there’s a lot more exaggerating/lies when it actually comes to dad’s involvement.